To Fight or not to Fight

Every couple will fight and that is a fact.  Most fights are caused because of simple misunderstandings and some are just matters of incompatibility.  You may have both changed in your interests and your wants.  Sometimes, it takes a good fight to re-synq and get back on the same path together.

The key is to always makeup after the fight.  Sometimes a fight can be a build up of frustrations.  Those frustrations could be things like not putting the cap back on the tooth paste or even sexual frustration.  A fight is sometimes a natural way for a couple to express those desires in a passionate way.

The best way to end a fight is to say you are sorry.  You don’t have to wait for the other person to say it.  If you are bored with the fight or just want it to end then say you are sorry.  Most of the time that will be enough and the two of you can cool down and have a more rational and less passionate exchange of ideas.

You could give them a gift too.  Sometimes a nice candy can make someone smile or even a make up massage.  If these seem like something you might not do because of pride or it’s not your style, so then just try talking.  Try to see the problem from their perspective and work towards a solution.

Sometimes the only thing that is needed is that “sorry”.  It doesn’t have to mean that you feel you were wrong it just means that you don’t like that you are hurting your partner.  It can be hard for some people to just say those words because they in some way feel defeated.   Sorry can have whatever meaning you want it to, you could even use it as a curse word if you wanted.  Whatever makes you feel better, just the actual act of saying it is a great way to diffuse an argument.

Whenever you get to a calm feeling again is when you can give it a few minutes and try again.  Try to stay away from hot topics and don’t push buttons that will trigger another argument.  Sometimes an argument can be a minefield and you have to watch your step to get to the other side.